talking to an ex....

why is it that no one can really talk to an ex without weirdness or fighting? so we finally got the number to jason's ex and decided to give her a call. Wow! has she still not grown up. i don't get it we called with good intentions but she always seems to make things difficult for us. i called trying to see if i could just talk about stuff. you know the norm....how are you, how is austin, how is life, how is he doing in school ....lalala! just stuff like that. we have been outta touch cause we never know where she is or how to get a hold of her. we have tried so many times with her and still she does not want jason to be apart of his sons life. and thats pretty much what she makes it seem like. i mean it is water under the bridge what has happened in the past but it still is brought up. he is not a bad father, he pays child support and has tried to be apart of his sons life the whole time that we have been together. so really that says something for him, i mean he does have a life and a family here to. he has to work and take care of his life. but that doesnt change the love he has for the kid he never gets to see. at one time she asked us if he would give him up for adoption and he really did not want to. but he thought at another time that maybe it would be best for him and his son. but then after really thinking and praying about it, it just really didnt feel right no matter how much money he has to pay. i do feel like she has something to do with the raise in his support. anyway so i asked for him when i called and she said are you gonna talk to him or is jason. iw as like really chic. anyway i said jason is..... so she said austin do you wanna talk to your dad? he said my dad, is he on there? it was really cute so that just shows that he is curious of jason and wanted to speak to him. so they talked for a few minutes then she got on the phone and then thats is when it went sour. she does that every time. jason said i would like to have him for a wk or two this summer and she said why would he want to he has never left my site. she didnt even ask him. he is at an age that he can make his mind up. i mean it is not like we arent stable here. i just think that she is taking this situation to a bad level. we arent asking for him to move here. just to visit. that is the adult fair parent thing to do. she should be happy that jason is wanting to do more with him. though she has always said no to us. thats not ok. she is really wrong here. i dont understand why she cant be an adult here. jason is a good hard working person and father. i mean really she is making austin suffer cause she hates jason fo rsome lame ass reason. they are both to blame for the relationship not working cause apparently it was never really that good to begin with then you throw a kid on the fire and boooom! but i have faith that the Lord will provide jasons time when it is right for him and his other son to see one and other. ugh! anyway this situation is terrible and it is angry and ugly. i am done for now, i hate this.